I wrote recently about the relationship I have with my parents. This evening, the 3 of us had a rare night out together.
With my brother being away, and the rave reviews I’d seen for Lady Bird – as well as the film looking particularly introvert-/infp-friendly, I booked it. It’s not often that there’s a film we’re all interested in paying to see; my mum is particularly fussy when it comes to films.
We also took the opportunity to try out one of the Everyman cinemas for the first time. I’d been meaning to check it out, and thought my Everyman cinema would be taken on a date night; they have sofas instead of seats (with some single armchairs, too – to accommodate for groups of three, or other ‘odd’ numbers), and you can also order food and drink to eat during the film. Alas, this didn’t happen, but it’d make a good future date spot for sure. Along with tapas. You know, tucking in and sharing food, brushing hands, being polite about who gets the last tortilla chip, and so forth…
At £15 a ticket, it’s not cheap but not much more than a ticket for a film at my local cinema. I really enjoyed the film, and the restaurant meal we had afterwards. [At time of publishing, I’ve seen reflected and realised that, as much as I enjoyed it, there wasn’t much of a ‘story’ as such. I just enjoyed the individuality of Lady Bird, the main character, and Saiorse Ronan’s performance which was, as always, marvellous). I feel other empaths/introverts/creatives might like it, even though the mixed reviews I’ve read on Reddit, and the kinda nothingness of a storyline.
Despite venturing out on a cold, snowy night (seriously, the roads and streets were almost completely deserted), I had a really nice night.
Perhaps most of all, I enjoyed the quality time spent with my parents. It’s amazing how, despite living together, we rarely spend quality time together like this. Dad is often doing his own thing, playing golf or sat in the sitting room on his own when he’s not at work.
My parents are in their 50s, and before long will be in their 60s. Without meaning to sound morbid, I ought to really make the most of our time together. Dad has been making much more of an effort with me/the family recently (having even just standard chat with Dad still feels a little awkward though – for a future post), so I think we need to get some more family ‘together time’ in the diary. Whether it’s a movie night indoors (so easy! – I swear we are too spoilt in our house with a selection of different TVs and programmes that we individually like to watch), or going out for a meal together. Or just something completely different.
I’m also at the stage where it’s feeling a little more like an adult-adult relationship with my parents, though there’s a long way to go and I don’t think this will ever completely be the case! Just as I’m hoping to be more true to myself, I’d like to be more open and honest with my family, and hopefully we’ll all feel happier and closer as a result.
At the end of they day they are my parents, and they’ve certainly done their fair share for me. They can each be annoying as hell sometimes for sure, but they’ve been very supportive over the last couple of years, and actually on the whole in the grand scheme of things (it doesn’t always feel like this) – letting me do my own thing and be my own person. Boy, there have been some ups and downs but at least I’ve had the opportunity to experiment (e.g. university- and career-wise) and not live a life of resentment.
Here’s to more treasured family evenings in the awkward brown household.
✏ Written: Friday, 2nd March 2018 @ 0.13am
What about you? 🤷🏽♂️
Do you still do things like this with your folks? What’s the dynamic like with your family? I’d love to hear what it’s like for you 💙