Today I got a phone call. It feels pretty sad that that’s an actual thing to get excited about. Receiving a phone call on your phone… who knew.
What did we even do before?! Back in the days of the Nokia 3310 (remember that beauty?), Snake and pay-as-you-go texting. Don’t get me wrong, as an introvert messaging can be a godsend.
In theory, I can read + reply at my own pace, and in a considered way (turning off the ‘read receipts’ on Whatsapp have helped with this #nomoreblueticks). However, a lot of the time, it’s just ping-ping-ping-ping. Distraction, distraction, distraction.
Don’t even get me started on Whatsapp groups. I try to keep these to an absolute minimum, and only where they actually serve a purpose and add value. And really don’t get me started on people who use Facebook Messenger like it’s Whatsapp. I don’t even have the FB Messenger app on my phone so, chances are, if you hit me up that way, it’s gonna take me a whiiile to get back to you (sorry dad, I know this is sometimes you).
Anyhow, Girl J whatsapped me this AM (I decided that ‘whatsapped’ is now a legitimate verb, hence the small ‘w’) for some thoughts on something. As tends to be the case with Girl J, I sent a well-thought-out response to be as helpful as I could (without going OTT, obv 🙄).
And then… she called me! Turns out she was on her lunch break when I replied, and she said “I’m trying to do more calls and less Whatsapps”. High-five moment right there. I like that a lot.
It got me to thinking, why the hell don’t we actually talk more often. You know, use those phone things for the reason they are actually designed for. Sh*t, it’s so sad that 99% of the time we (I) use the phone for mindless browsing, emails and disjointed Whatsapp conversations.
Yes, introverted me will have to carefully manage my energy and not have to always make calls (in the nicest possible way, there are plenty of people I’d rather not get into a lengthy, random conversation with). Messaging still does serve a purpose. But with those I consciously want to maintain/cultivate relationships with… the phone call could be the way to go. I mean, a ‘deep’ conversation on Whatsapp can be tricky, and still energy-depleting.
Let’s be old school and start talking again.
PS. To curb my unhealthy phone habits and take things back to basics, I have put myself down for the waitlist for The Light Phone, and I also just heard (literally, about a half ago) about the new Nokia 8810.
✏️ Written: Wednesday, 21st February 2018 @ 6.49pm
What about you? ☎️ ✉️
Are you a talker or a texter/Whatsapp-er? Are you happy with your method(s) of communication and phone habits? I’d love to hear your take on this.