Phone calls vs Whatsapp

Today I got a phone call. It feels pretty sad that that’s an actual thing to get excited about. Receiving a phone call on your phone… who knew.

What did we even do before?! Back in the days of the Nokia 3310 (remember that beauty?), Snake and pay-as-you-go texting. Don’t get me wrong, as an introvert messaging can be a godsend.

In theory, I can read + reply at my own pace, and in a considered way (turning off the ‘read receipts’ on Whatsapp have helped with this #nomoreblueticks). However, a lot of the time, it’s just ping-ping-ping-ping. Distraction, distraction, distraction.

Don’t even get me started on Whatsapp groups. I try to keep these to an absolute minimum, and only where they actually serve a purpose and add value. And really don’t get me started on people who use Facebook Messenger like it’s Whatsapp. I don’t even have the FB Messenger app on my phone so, chances are, if you hit me up that way, it’s gonna take me a whiiile to get back to you (sorry dad, I know this is sometimes you).

Anyhow, Girl J whatsapped me this AM (I decided that ‘whatsapped’ is now a legitimate verb, hence the small ‘w’) for some thoughts on something. As tends to be the case with Girl J, I sent a well-thought-out response to be as helpful as I could (without going OTT, obv 🙄).

And then… she called me! Turns out she was on her lunch break when I replied, and she said “I’m trying to do more calls and less Whatsapps”. High-five moment right there. I like that a lot.

It got me to thinking, why the hell don’t we actually talk more often. You know, use those phone things for the reason they are actually designed for. Sh*t, it’s so sad that 99% of the time we (I) use the phone for mindless browsing, emails and disjointed Whatsapp conversations.

Yes, introverted me will have to carefully manage my energy and not have to always make calls (in the nicest possible way, there are plenty of people I’d rather not get into a lengthy, random conversation with). Messaging still does serve a purpose. But with those I consciously want to maintain/cultivate relationships with… the phone call could be the way to go. I mean, a ‘deep’ conversation on Whatsapp can be tricky, and still energy-depleting.

Let’s be old school and start talking again.

PS. To curb my unhealthy phone habits and take things back to basics, I have put myself down for the waitlist for The Light Phone, and I also just heard (literally, about a half ago) about the new Nokia 8810.

✏️ Written: Wednesday, 21st February 2018 @ 6.49pm

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What about you? ☎️ ✉️
Are you a talker or a texter/Whatsapp-er? Are you happy with your method(s) of communication and phone habits? I’d love to hear your take on this.

23 thoughts on “Phone calls vs Whatsapp

  1. I would have to say that I’m more of a texter since my friends don’t really like phonecalls and stuff and honestly, I only do phonecalls if I’m walking home in the dark and stuff. WhatsApp also isn’t a very popular place with the people I know so I use FB Messenger very often, haha

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    1. I’ll be honest, since I wrote this a few days ago… I’ve made one phone call that I can recall, to my mum earlier today haha. I think for me I’d like to be closer to one or two people I know, who don’t live so close. With work etcetera (I’m 28), it can be tricky. I think the FB Messenger might be a generational thing (though quite a few people I know use it). e.g. I don’t use Snapchat, I’d say half/less than half of the people I know have it.

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      1. Yeah, I would say it’s a generation thing, I love phonecalls and texting on an actual message up that doesn’t require internet but now apparently to do anything, you have to be online or something, kinda annoying. My sister is 22 and she only uses Messenger but also WhatsApp and she also doesn’t have any other social media so I see the difference.

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  2. Although texting is frustrating and tedious, I prefer it over talking because I can squeeze tidbits of conversation into small spaces in my schedule, whereas a phone call takes a big block of time that I don’t usually have.

    As a result, I have to schedule actual phone calls. LOL

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    1. Totally true, I hear you. Maybe it’s a romantic notion. It’s just a shame that – because no one calls now – it feels like calls have to be scheduled. And as a very “in the moment” kinda person, I’m either in the mood to talk or not. By the time I’ve scheduled it and it’s time, I’m probably not in the mood 🤦🏽‍♂️

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      1. When I was pretty low a few weeks back, I told a friend I’d ring her, on a couple of occasions, and didn’t 🤦🏽‍♂️ Then I feel guilty/awkward about reaching out again, as I’ve already apologised a couple of times via message.

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  3. When my phone rings and I haven’t planned for it, I tense up, stare at the phone and feel a sense of regret immediately. Especially if it’s a number I don’t recognize. I feel like calling without notice – unless you’re my mom, my best friend or my sister is like showing up at my house unannounced. The phone has scared me even since before cell phones. No idea why. I used to ask my sister to call the doctor for me or my mom to order the pizza. I wonder what the hell thats about.

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    1. You know it’s strange, I think I’m the same actually :S I previously had a job hat involved a lot of talking on the phone, and maybe that made me a bit more used to it. I honestly found it tricky though in the early days – and every morning, even after nearly 5 years, I’d get “the fear”. In a previous comment on this post, I mentioned that I, too, like to call/speak when I’m in the mood, which can be unpredictable. My mum tells me that, as a baby/toddler, I used to scream the place down if the doorbell rang!

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      1. I actually will not answer the phone if I don’t recognise the number. This is mostly because I won’t walk to people trying to sell me shit, but it’s also because being called on the phone has become very slightly odd!

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      2. Me too. Sometimes I don’t even answer the phone, when it’s someone I know/like. When I worked in sales, I often had to talk to people for the first time – I think the routine just put me in a zombie-like state, where I didn’t think too much about it and just did it. It wasn’t always easy though, to say the least. And I may well have been one of those private-number people, a typical “headhunter” thing to call using a private number!

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